I found Casey's blog a long time ago and was instantly drawn to her beautiful and genuine heart. She is the kind of woman and mama everyone wants to be. Her virtue and integrity shine through everything she does and I am so honored to have her as a guest today! I asked her to share how she and her husband balance their time between three young children while making each one feel individually special. I cried as I read because this is so important to me, even though I don't have multiple children yet. Wes is one of the biggest blessings in my life and oh, how we longed for him! It is my hope that all of my babes will know they all have a place and specific purpose.
"Loving each of my babies well as individuals is really important to me. They are all different. And they have different needs and wants and it's my job to know them well enough to meet those. When I chose to be a mama, I chose to be selfless. I chose to care and love someone else before myself. That means sleepless nights and messy rooms...but it means more than that. It means truly knowing my children. Knowing their little hearts, their dreams, their fears... their needs. I desire to be intentional with my kids. Loving them as individuals and creating moments with them as individuals, not just as a group is so important to this heart of mine. And to Chris too.
Chris and I take each kiddo for 10-15 minutes each day and do something just us. It can be a simple walk down to the end of the block and back. Rocking a child and reading a story one on one. Taking one outside to feed the pets and swing on the hammock. A moment one on one to say "I see you, I care about you, tell me about your day.... just you" Something sweet and simple just the two of you to fill up their little tank. You can also do longer activities. I always take one of the three with me if I am running somewhere real quick and then we might stop for a quick ice cream together before we get back!
We all want to be seen, and special. We want to know that people are proud of us and that we are well loved and truly known. understood.
Knowing my babies and understanding who they are, what makes them tick...that's what it's all about.
It's in the little moments. In the middle of the night as we tiptoe down the hall and run our fingers along the walls as we beg out prayers over each child. It's knowing your son wants you to buy him earthworms when you go to the store or that sometimes kids act out when they are hurting. It's running up your kid's homework that they forgot or staying up late to fold laundry and make lunches. It's working at a job late into the night even when you feel unappreciated. That's our job. We are mothers.
It's knowing that one of your kids will walk into church and never look back and the other will fight back tears the whole way down the hall. It's knowing one will need a few extra minutes at bedtime while the other one wants a little extra time in the middle of the day playing outside with you.
One of my kiddos never looks back. From the moment this one was born she was super independent. It was just in her. It had absolutely nothing to do with me. I have raised them all the same yet they are all so different. Honestly, at first my heart ached a bit. It would make my heart wince a bit when she never shed a tear, never turn around. But I celebrate this in her. She has a fierce independence and it will lead her well. I see her as brave. The truth is, she is just about everything that I have always wished that I could be: confident, brave, adventurous. I want her to have that forever. I don't want the broken hearts and bullies at school and the peer pressure of life to rob her. I want to help her fight for it. To feel valued and worthy and everything that she absolutely is. She deserves better than that.
One of my other kiddos is so much like me. My mini-me. I feel like I can parent this one in a really special, beautiful way because I understand this one in a really unique way. I understand why certain things are done or said. I understand the fears and hesitation. The sensitive heart.
Our job after all is to guide them and help them become who they are meant to be. And that means loving them and knowing them well."
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